The Clare Project is pleased to announce the launch of our new series of information booklets, written by and for the trans, non-binary and intersex (TNBI) community. 

The third of the series, on ‘Friends and Family is at the end of this blog post. We hope you find it interesting and useful.

How was the booklet made?

The booklet was designed and written by me, Luka White, a Training and Development Worker employed by the Clare Project. 

Prior to writing, a consultation group of six community members was recruited. We asked them:

  • What key messages would you like to give to the friends and family members of a TNBI person when they first come out?
  • What important topics should the booklet cover? 
  • Is there anything you would not like to see in the booklet?
  • What can we do to make sure this booklet is accessible/relevant to as many TNBI people as possible?

Using their answers, we put together an initial draft of the booklet. We included quotes from community members, illustrations by TNBI artists James Fox and Esme Anderson, and photos of TNBI people from The Gender Spectrum Collection. We then ran a second consultation to make sure that the community members felt happy with the result. 

How will the booklets be available?

The booklets are available online as a pdf on our website, and in printed format at TNBI events and local TNBI community spaces. Large Print will be available on request. We are in the process of making audio/video versions. 

What topics will future booklets cover?

The next booklet topics will be on ‘Being TNBI and Neurodivergent’ and ‘Intersex Community Needs’. Previous booklets, on ‘Self Care’ and ‘Medical Transition’, are available here. 

Further booklet topics are yet to be decided but may include topics such as ‘Body Image’, ‘Social Transition’ and ‘Dealing with Discrimination’. 

If you would like to be a part of the consultation group for these booklets, please contact myself at to express your interest.

The Clare Project is here for you. For 1-1 emotional support, you can call our helpline. Keep an eye out on our Facebook and Instagram pages for other ways to stay connected with us, and each other, during this time too.

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Download the Friends and Family Tips PDF below: